Desperate Dater
July 4th, 2009 by Astrid Engels | No Comments | Filed in Online DatingYou haven’t had a date in months, and it certainly isn’t due to lack of trying! But for some reason nothing you do seems to work; not your flirting, not your internet dating profile and not your pleas to family and friends to introduce you to someone, anyone!
Chances are that when you’re in love you wear your heart on your sleeve. Similarly, when you want a date so badly you can taste it, that desperation is evident in your behavior. Unfortunately, it makes potential daters run for the hills. Keep reading for tips to change your luck.
Stop trying so hard! In most things social, trying too hard gives the opposite result of what you want. Trying too hard to attract or keep a date will always backfire. Remember that love will come in its own good time; you can’t force it. So stop putting so much pressure on that guy or gal you met on an internet dating service; it it’s meant to be things will progress at their own pace.
Lying to impress. If you’re guilty of lying about yourself to impress someone, stop it! Right now! There’s nothing to be gained by lying about who you are or what you do. Sooner or later even the little white lies are going to catch up with you. Do it often enough and you’ll gain a reputation you really don’t want.
Agreeing with everything. When you’re having a conversation with a potential date, do you find yourself agreeing with everything they say, even if you don’t? Though this isn’t outright lying, you’re not being true to yourself. You cannot expect someone to get to know the real you if you don’t have any opinions of your own. Agreeing for the sake of agreeing is for wimps.
You’re a doormat. You’ve been stood up so many times you’ve lost count, and rather than tell your date how you feel, you simply accept his/her explanation. That’s the sign of a doormat. If you don’t respect yourself, why should anyone else? Self respect is the key to self confidence; and a must if you don’t want to appear desperate.
Do you think you have to sleep with someone in order for them to stick around, even though you don’t think you’re ready? Sleeping with someone before you’re ready is a sure sign of desperation. If you date decides to drop you if you won’t sleep with him/her, then just let them!
Desperate Daters will date anyone who has a heartbeat. If any of the above sounds like you, take a breather and use this dating downtime as an opportunity to for self improvement. Once you’re at ease in your own skin, you’ll no longer come across as desperate.
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